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Sunday, March 13th, 2011

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9:49p
Barbara Ripstein eulogy by Linda Ripstein Dresnick

My mother was always the most glamorous mother in our neighborhood. She never left the house unless she was in full makeup with her hair "just so." This continued into her later years when it would often take her as long as 4 hours to put on her "face." She was always impeccably dressed. My mother is probably the only person to climb Masada in a white pleated skirt and high heels.

 People would often mistake her for Ann Miller, the actress and dancer. When this occurred, she would oblige people with a little tap dance and an autograph. This would make the people very happy until they realized she had written "Barbara Ripstein." 

Her marriage to my father was a great love affair that lasted 52 years. They met when my grandfather, her father, developed gallstone pancreatitis and was referred to my father for surgery. My grandfather's room was at the end of the hallway. Legend has it that my father, as chief of surgery, was leading a large group of residents down the hall to my grandfather's room, when my mother stepped into the hall. My father promptly walked the whole entourage into the wall. He proposed on the second date and they married shortly after. She was, at that time, a graduate student in Psychology, and left school as soon as she was married. She was a woman of another era and was content to be a wife and mother.

My mother often downplayed her own intelligence, but she was very smart. She skipped several grades and went to Syracuse University at the age of 16. Many years later, after she made a killing in the stock market, my father put her in charge of family finances. She was an avid crossword puzzle solver and usually finished the NYT puzzle before my father, but never told him. She was obviously the inspiration for my sister, Ellen, who took this to another level and became American Crossword puzzle champion in 2001 and currently works for the NYT puzzle editor.

 My mother never missed an event when we were growing up. She was at every concert, every play, any event where we were twirling our batons. Ellen remembers a really insignificant Flag Day celebration, where my mother was the only parent to show up.

Probably her favorite role was grandmother. She went crazy after my sons were born. We had to give her the key to the house. My parents would travel an hour each way, twice a week, to pick up the kids from Beth Am and take them to eat. Later on, the boys and I would go every weekend to take her out to lunch in Aventura Mall. I always felt sorry for whoever sat next to her on the bench at Cheesecake Factory, because they would have to hear all about her fantastic daughters and brilliant grandsons. It really didn't matter who sat there. I saw her talk to an old Cuban lady who spoke no English, a biker with tattoos, and a teenager with multiple piercings. They all got the story.

 She was very funny and wasn't afraid to act silly. Even after her massive stroke, she maintained her sense of humor. When she was in the hospital, the EKG tech came in and said, "Hi Barbara. I'm going to take a picture of your heart." She replied, "Okay. I'll try to smile."

 In summary, my mother had a good life. She loved and was loved in return, and this was what mattered to her.

 


9:52p
Barbara Ripstein eulogy from Mark Dresnick

Barbara would have been very happy to have her family, and our friends show up here today. She always loved our events. However, I know she would have much preferred it if we were not outside – it could have messed up her 1940's hairdo.

What got her out, were her grandchildren. Ever since Joel and Jeffrey were born, she and Charles travelled from North Miami to our home to pick them up from school and shower them with an outlandish amount of love and attention.

I saw that she lavished similar attention on her husband, whom she absolutely adored. As you heard from Linda, she was also a very involved mother to Ellen & Linda. According to Ripstein legend, she even ran into a burning schoolhouse to rescue cupcakes for Ellen's first grade birthday party when the school had been evacuated due to a fire.

Unfortunately, this audacity all changed when she suffered a massive stroke 2 ½ months ago. From that time, she was taken to a hospital, to a rehab hospital, and then to the Miami Jewish Home for the Aged. She received very good care at all of the facilities. All of the staff called her Miss Barbara. Just like with her family, she was very sweet to all, and never had a mean word to say to anyone.

One of the things we learn in life is that "timing is everything." This was proven true last Saturday when Joel arrived home from college for his spring break. Linda, Jeffrey, and I took him from the airport to the Miami Jewish Home to see Barbara. This was the last time we got to see her as a family.

On Saturday, Barbara kept on repeating something we had not heard from her in the 2 ½ months since her stroke. As I held her hand, she kept saying over and over again: "I want to go fast," "I want to go fast." Thinking over my last day with Barbara, this mantra was like a prayer she kept repeating. Just two days later her prayer was answered. She went peacefully and with no pain.

I’ll leave more profound thoughts about prayer to the Rabbi's, but it seems to me that when a prayer like that is answered, that this is a reflection of being deserving…. and of having lived a good life. This is clearly reflected in the way Barbara treated and loved her family. May she rest in peace.


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